Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Two Year Floxiversary: Lessons Learned


`You're thinking about something, my dear, and that makes you forget to talk. I can't tell you just now what the moral of that is, but I shall remember it in a bit.'

"'Perhaps it hasn't one,' Alice ventured to remark. "'Tut, tut, child!' said the Duchess. 'Everything's got a moral, if only you can find it.'"
- Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland, Ch. 9

Today, it has been two years since receiving that ill-fated dose of Levaquin.  I haven’t posted in a while; I have been trying to use this time to reflect on how my life has changed, and to find my new role in life.  At times, I feel so consumed by it all, I wish I could run away and just hide.  While other times, I feel I have embraced what has happened.  I have dealt with chronic illness for six years now, first with my daughter's epilepsy, and now my Quinolone Toxicity and peripheral neuropathy.  Having been a healthcare provider as an Occupational Therapist, I have insight from all three perspectives; as a caregiver at work, a caregiver in the home, and now as the care receiver.   I will say the latter, has taught me the most.  The following are valuable lessons I have learned dealing with chronic illnesses from all three points of views, especially the past 2 years.  While a few of these will be familiar from previous blog posts, others are new.   I don’t necessarily always remember these lessons, and I probably need to review them myself at times.  This list is a stream of consciousness.  I thought it would be short, but it kept growing.  I would love to hear from you.  What lessons have you learned?
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Make doctor appointments on Mondays or early in the week.  On Fridays everyone in the office is ready for the weekend, including the doctor.  He may not be as focused on you, but more focused on his weekend getaway.

Make appointments first thing in the morning or first appointment after lunch, this will reduce your wait time.

Bring something to read, in case you could not get the first appointment.

Ask your doctor how he is doing.   He probably doesn’t get asked this much.  He spends all day listening to other people constant complaints, and probably very few have asked him about his day.

Fire your doctor if he is not working with you, you feel he does not fully listen, or you don’t trust his decisions.

Always make a list of questions you have for your doctor.  In such a short amount of time spent with him you will more than likely forget something.

Educate yourself about your diagnosis.  Knowledge is power and you can have a much more meaningful conversation with your doctor if you know all of the medical terms, treatment options and available testing.  Read books, research online, talk to others with the same diagnosis.

Take notes or have someone go with you to take notes.

Keep track of all medical information.  Get copies of medical records from all of your doctors.

Have doctors share information.  Make sure all tests are forwarded to all your doctors with a summary note.  This will help stop duplicate testing.  

Start a "Care Book" (See page)

BE YOUR OWN MEDICAL ADVOCATE!

Be prepared to fight insurance.   Insurance will always say no the first 2-3 times, but be persistent.  They are hoping you will give up, that is what they are counting on.  I found a well worded letter can still do the trick.

Research what medication you are being prescribed!  Ask the nurse what they are injecting into your IV before they do it. 

Medication can help with pain, and don’t be afraid to use them.  But proceed with caution!

Know you are not alone; 1 in2 people have a chronic illness.  Find support groups even if they are online.   People you meet online can sometimes be your best support. 

Remember most of the people you meet in online groups, are the ones that have not yet gotten better.  Those that have improved usually are no longer actively posting. 

Share your story, so others can learn from you.  Through sharing, you may receive advice, a doctor suggestion, or an idea you have never thought of before, that may make a difference in your health.

The Internet is not always right.

Educate your family and friends if they are willing to listen. 

Realize not everyone is going to “get it”.  Some will always think it is your fault; it is due to too much stress, lack of faith.  You have to learn to move on, and not get stressed that they don’t understand.  Find people that do understand.

It is NOT your fault that you are suffering from a chronic illness, or any illness for that matter.  We are human and are susceptible to all kinds of diseases, human error, or accidents.  Instead of asking why me, ask why not me?  We will all get something, at some point. 

No one experiences pain the same, and how it affects a person depends on their lifestyle and responsibilities.
 
It is o.k. to cry…you may even have a pool of tears.  Grieving for your former self is normal.

Watch for signs of depression.

Focus on what is “right” with you.

Write a journal.  Mine is online, but yours doesn’t have to be.  It is a good way to help with frustrations and anxiousness.

Be positive, surround yourself with positive people.  Avoid negativity.  That will not help you get better.

Ask for help.

Rely on your church, friends, and family for support.  They want to help.

It is hard to accept help!

In helping others, send cards, make a phone call, send an email, bring food in disposable containers, it is ok if you don’t know what to say.  Don’t be embarrassed that you have waited too late to call.  Any time is better than not at all.

Teach your kids all household chores; you never know when they will need to help because you are unable to do it.

Remember, your family is going though this as well.  It is not just you affected by the chronic illness.  Not all of them will react the same way.

If you are having a bad, crabby day….warn your family, and then go to your room!

Get a temporary handicapped hang tag, even if you never use it.    At least that option is there if the situation arises.

Use the handicapped space when you need it.

Don’t abuse your handicapped tag.  If there is a close space that is still reasonable for you, save the handicapped space for those who need it more.

Don’t be ashamed to use assistive devices.

Get outside of your comfort zone, test yourself, you may have gotten better and not know it. Take a trip!

Pace yourself, don’t overdo it.

Plan your day, allow extra time than normal incase fatigue hits.

It is o.k. to do nothing.  Take a nap.

Get help in the home, if your are able.

No pain, no gain no longer applies for exercise.  Slow and easy wins the race from now on.

Eat healthy.

Plan out your weekly meals:   Ask friends to prepare meals that can be stored in the freezer for future use.  If your husband travels, have him grill extra chicken before he leaves to be used later in the week.  If you are having a good day, make things to stock in your freezer for when you are not feeling well.  Use www.emeals.com for food planning, and your grocery list.

Chocolate cake is perfectly acceptable for your kids for breakfast.

Pets can be the best comfort.  They are good listeners and don’t give bad advice.

Beds can go unmade.

Read something NOT related to your illness.  Take a break from it.

Listen to uplifting music.

Crow a little.

Be grateful!

Sing!

Laugh!

Pray!

LIVE!!

 “One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.” - Ida Scott Taylor

Thanks for Reading!